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Does anyone else have the problem of being overly intense in the way they feel emotions, particularly anger, anxiety, depression, panic, etc.? I hate this part of me and my black and white thinking, overly analytical, obsessive brain that never stops thinking and just want relief. :(
 
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Does anyone else have the problem of being overly intense in the way they feel emotions, particularly anger, anxiety, depression, panic, etc.? I hate this part of me and my black and white thinking, overly analytical, obsessive brain that never stops thinking and just want relief. :(
I think everyone with BPD has that problem. My husband has BPD and it's been a genuine struggle for him (I admire how much he has overcome it).

The way it is with him is not really a mental thing so much as "emotional disregulation" - extreme difficulty managing his emotions, especially anger, anxiety and depression. On the plus side, most emotions are fleeting, a temporary reaction to immediate circumstances. On the minus side, whatever you're feeling at a given moment, it feels like it has always been that way and will always be that way - the trick is to recognize while it's happening that that is not the core of who you are. Of course, you have to find out who you are which can be quite difficult for people with this disorder. But such is life.
 
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I do and also I have difficulty in hiding my emotions even in public and will burst into tears which I hate. For instance yesterday I made my excuses and walked out of somewhere because a "friend"upset me and I felt like I was going to cry. I said I was feeling sick but as I'm a terrible liar I doubt anyone believed me but now I think my friend is angry with me and I dread facing her again.:argh:
 
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I can be, but I tend to internalise all the intense feelings. Rather than a public outburst I'll slink off home or I won't leave the house in the first place, the build of of emotions is so intense I can't stand the thought of being around people just in case I reveal just how much I think about every little tiny thing. It can be overwhelming.

I do and also I have difficulty in hiding my emotions even in public and will burst into tears which I hate. For instance yesterday I made my excuses and walked out of somewhere because a "friend"upset me and I felt like I was going to cry. I said I was feeling sick but as I'm a terrible liar I doubt anyone believed me but now I think my friend is angry with me and I dread facing her again.:argh:

The bold I can emphasise with, to the point that I actually feel nauseous thinking about it. I've done the exact same thing, to the point where people now know if I disappear during a social event it's because I can't cope with all the 'feelings'. I hope you and your friend are able to work through whatever it was that upset you, a friend may be angry for the present but hopefully once the horrible part of facing them again is out of the way steps forward can be taken :).
 
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Does anyone else have the problem of being overly intense in the way they feel emotions, particularly anger, anxiety, depression, panic, etc.? I hate this part of me and my black and white thinking, overly analytical, obsessive brain that never stops thinking and just want relief. :(

What you explain is one of the core issues with BPD. Not saying you have BPD, only that the symptoms you describe, are the cornerstone of the same.

If your emotional issues negatively impact those around you and yourself, there are trained professionals out there that can help you with this issue.
 
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