Kink in christian marriage

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This should be a fun thread.

One of the most entertaining things I've found on the internet is articles on very proper Q&A Christian sites about the use of sex toys. You wind up with an image of angels using [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] on each other at God's feet, the way they talk about it.
 
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I would be cautious to overindulge in any manner of sexual action. But I do not think it is important that I interfere with the sex lives of others...

But, if one's sexuality becomes a dominant feature in one's life, simply because it is now 'heterosexual sex' does not mean that it is somehow now a glorious affair.
 
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As a christian whos married theres nothings wrong with being kinky. However there are still some things that are not acceptable. If you include kids or animals. If you watch inappropriate content while having sex (not that you should watch inappropriate content in general). No anal. Aside from that anything is valid.
 
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I think that some people are naturally submissive and some are naturally dominate,

if these people get married, it makes sense that it would be a part of their entire life...
including in the bedroom
Those roles are often switched in the bedroom.
 
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Why isn't anal allowed? I don't recall any mention in the Bible that says that.

I sense an argument involving the terms "sodomy" or "sexual immorality" is marching with ill-deserved confidence towards this thread.

Along with "blasphemy", they have proven to be very....adaptable terms for condemning things people personally disapprove of.
 
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I sense an argument involving the terms "sodomy" or "sexual immorality" is marching with ill-deserved confidence towards this thread.

Along with "blasphemy", they have proven to be very....adaptable terms for condemning things people personally disapprove of.

Well, all the power to them I guess.

As long as they don't try to make it illegal again. Texas just only kicked that a few years ago.
 
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Well, all the power to them I guess.

As long as they don't try to make it illegal again. Texas just only kicked that a few years ago.

Legally of course, I'm sure the actual act would still have been going on for a while ^_^
 
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I was discussing with a few friends the concepts of sex in a christian marriage when the concept of kink came up and whether or not it was acceptable. NOw we are talking BDSM, dom/sub, toys, etc.

What do the rest of you think about this?

God designed the bodies of men and women with sex as one of the natural functions of marriage. Like anything, sex can be misused. If self-gratification is the ONLY motivation of a particular act, there has to be some caution as to whether God would approve. I suppose what I'm trying to say is that we need to ask whether a particular sexual act falls within the natural use of the body of a man/woman. God designed man/woman to fit together perfectly well and I can't see how the use of "toys" etc need to be added to the creation of sex by God.

I am NOT saying it is definitely wrong as the Bible is silent on this type of thing. I would just caution against saying that anything goes - this is a judgment call for each Christian couple. I also think a good test for any type of Christian behaviour is to ask ourselves if we would be comfortable doing any given act in the presence of God and this is certainly a good test in area of sexual activity...
 
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Why would kinkiness be immoral? It just sounds to me like asking whether it is wrong to eat spicy food. I don't understand what the potential problem would be.

As a christian whos married theres nothings wrong with being kinky. However there are still some things that are not acceptable. If you include kids or animals. If you watch inappropriate content while having sex (not that you should watch inappropriate content in general). No anal. Aside from that anything is valid.

Why no anal? Seems like a random thing to ban.

God designed the bodies of men and women with sex as one of the natural functions of marriage. Like anything, sex can be misused. If self-gratification is the ONLY motivation of a particular act, there has to be some caution as to whether God would approve.

Why would God care? Seems like a rather petty concern for God. If I eat for pleasure, or play sport for enjoyment alone, is that wrong?

I suppose what I'm trying to say is that we need to ask whether a particular sexual act falls within the natural use of the body of a man/woman. God designed man/woman to fit together perfectly well and I can't see how the use of "toys" etc need to be added to the creation of sex by God.

All uses of the body are natural. If they weren't natural then we wouldn't be able to use our natural bodies to do the action.

God also gave us legs, but we use cars anyway. Is that unnatural and immoral, if your legs work? Some people even drive for fun.

I am NOT saying it is definitely wrong as the Bible is silent on this type of thing. I would just caution against saying that anything goes - this is a judgment call for each Christian couple. I also think a good test for any type of Christian behaviour is to ask ourselves if we would be comfortable doing any given act in the presence of God and this is certainly a good test in area of sexual activity...

I wouldn't say that is a good test. How people feel about actions can be a product of upbringing. Eg: we are told certain things are dirty, so we feel slightly uncomfortable about them, even if they aren't immoral.

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Why would kinkiness be immoral? It just sounds to me like asking whether it is wrong to eat spicy food? I don't understand what the potential problem would be.



Why no anal? Seems like a random thing to ban.



Why would God care? Seems like a rather petty concern for God. If I eat for pleasure, or play sport for enjoyment alone, is that wrong?



All uses of the body are natural. If they weren't natural then we wouldn't be able to use our natural bodies to do the action.

God also gave us legs, but we use cars anyway. Is that unnatural and immoral, if your legs work? Some people even drive for fun.



I wouldn't say that is a good test. How people feel about actions can be a product of upbringing. Eg: we are told certain things are dirty, so we feel slightly uncomfortable about them, even if they aren't immoral.

:)

AMEN GIRL!! You said it exactly how I feel better than I could. This is so spot on. I like lingerie, bikinis, dancing, and preforming and it is all completely natural, I LOVE THIS!!!
 
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