I have been separated since April 2012 and am awaiting divorce. I was married for 5 years. My husband is a compulsive gambler/addict. The amount of deception and lying that comes along with an addict need not be explained. Ive been nearly homeless, utilities disconnected, on the receiving end of charity, moved 3 times, all the while my husband had lost 12 jobs during the time we were together, took money from my sons piggy bank and he claimed to be a Christian. My husband and I were married within 6 months of meeting each other. I know now that this was an error on my part. We received pre-marriage counseling from his pastor - who is also his cousin. This so-called Man of God was in the middle of our marriage to the extent of being a crutch to my husband. there was no disagreement or argument that wasnt run by Pastor, cousin ***. When he "counseled" my husband not to tell me that he had gotten back into gambling I was done with him, his church, his advice.
Since my separation, my husband has not contributed financially to help care for our son even though I have obtained legal custody and established a child support order through the courts. I have access to his email still, and I have seen things I am shocked to know about the man I am married to. I had no idea who he really was/is. I am ashamed at my choice for a husband and I pray that he matures into a Godly father for the sake of our little boy.
I have not dated anyone nor do I have the desire to. I am afraid of the process of meeting someone, trusting them, believing them and finding out they are not who they claimed to be. As a Christian, I understand that I am still legally married. But I am also afraid of being paralyzed by fear - of never moving forward and of being alone for the rest of my life.
i am looking for advice on how to really move forward when the time comes.
thanks,
Since my separation, my husband has not contributed financially to help care for our son even though I have obtained legal custody and established a child support order through the courts. I have access to his email still, and I have seen things I am shocked to know about the man I am married to. I had no idea who he really was/is. I am ashamed at my choice for a husband and I pray that he matures into a Godly father for the sake of our little boy.
I have not dated anyone nor do I have the desire to. I am afraid of the process of meeting someone, trusting them, believing them and finding out they are not who they claimed to be. As a Christian, I understand that I am still legally married. But I am also afraid of being paralyzed by fear - of never moving forward and of being alone for the rest of my life.
i am looking for advice on how to really move forward when the time comes.
thanks,