Is It a Sin having sex not married?

[Icefloret]

I had to edit this messange. I was trying to say what I had when I was 18 years old. I forgot to say I am single. I had a major type O.

What my question was: Is having sex with someone not married with. I mean When "Two singled people".

I was talking like I was married. But, I was trying to say I did want.
I'm sorry to you guys on this thread. That made me a liar by my type O mistake.

 

[Marycita]

Is its wrong not having sex with someone that is not married and not into me?

It is a sin to have sex with anyone you are not married to, yes

So the rest of your post (and I don't say this to be rude) is irrelevant, because your question is answered. It should stop here. No getting around it...no justifying it otherwise...no special situations. Sex outside of marriage is a sin.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

Really!? I don't yell about anything really (I've been engaged a few times)... I've always had girls whom yell at me, and fight me so often that for some reason I'm okay with it... I really shouldn't be. I'm often the one whom understands what a real relationship is about, and will fight for it until I am completely sure that there's no reason for it to exist any longer.

I think you've got yourself a couple of adolescent males, not men. If you plan on keeping either of them hanging, maybe you need to consider what you're doing... sounds pretty selfish and lacks any foresight or wisdom, know a few girls whom decided they were better off only to come back begging for forgiveness and such (don't know what you've got until it's gone); I think once you betray that kind of love you don't deserve it and will gladly tell you so.

As far as you deciding that you're going to have sex with guys, well, that's on you madam...

Grace and peace be upon you.

 

[hedrick]

I don't take a hard line on Christian ethics here. But I warn you that there's reasonable evidence that having sex with people other than your eventual husband will make marriage more difficult. It's not something I'd do or recommend that you do. Particularly given your experiences. I think it's just going to confuse your relationship with guys.

 

[Thunder Peel]

God's word is very clear in stating that sex is only to be shared in the context of marriage. That's the way God designed it and that intimacy isn't meant to be given to anyone other than your spouse.

 

[Icefloret]

Sorry, I took out and edit it. I am single. I'm not yet married, no lie. I want to me married. I should of lefted that is there. I'm really not lying. But, I did had sex with a friend when I was 18. We was not married.

 

[Rhamiel]

hello and welcome to Christian forum
yes I believe it is a sin to have sex with someone even if both of you are single
you said you had sex with a friend when you were 18?
well remember God forgives all sins if we repent and turn to Him
He is our Joy and our Salvation!
trust in the Lord, stay away from sin and what leads you to sin
God bless you my dear sister in Christ and welcome to the forum

 

[Icefloret]

Thanks. I was Baptized after all that. So I try to keep myself out of trouble.

 

[Icefloret]

Rhamiel, thanks for not judging me.

 

[Rhamiel]

we should remember the words of our Lord Jesus

Gospel according to st.Mark 2:17 Jesus heard this and said to them (that), "Those who are well do not need a physician, but the sick do. I did not come to call the righteous but sinners." we are all sinners and we can only be saved through the grace and forgivness of our Lord Jesus Christ
glad to hear you got baptised

 

[Christopher0121]

We're all sinners. And it's been my experience that many, if not most, single Christians struggle with their sexual needs. Paul wrote:

I Corinthians 7:8-9
8 To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am. 9 But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
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Paul understood a single person's need for sexual intimacy. Paul's advice was that it is good for the unmarried and widows to remain single and celibate as he was. However, "if they cannot exercize self-control, they should marry."

I find it interesting that Paul doesn't say they are bad people. Paul doesn't condemn them to Hell. Paul doesn't disown them as Christians. Paul simply indicates that if one's sexual need is so great that they cannot control it, they should look to marry.

Now...is it "sin"? Yes. Anything short of God's perfect will is sin. However, this doesn't mean that God hates those who struggle with their need for physical intimacy. It only demonstrates the fallen nature of man and shows us why the grace of God is so necessary for our salvation.

If any reader is struggling with this here... First... know that God loves you and cares for your situation. Second, turn to God and confess. Be honest with how torn you are. Cry out for His forgiveness. Ask that God help you overcome this struggle through the Holy Spirit. And consider that if these powerful needs do not subside... you are indeed meant to marry. Tie the knot and make your relationship something that brings honor to Christ and I believe that you'll find yourself feeling blessed.

If you find that you know that your relationship isn't a "lifetime relationship" that could become a beautiful marriage... end it. Save yourself the pain and heartache. Then pray that God help you find the one you're meant to marry.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

There are lots of reasons not to have sex outside of marriage aside from God's word saying not to, which is the most important reason.

God doesn't want us abstaining from sex to punish us, but rather to protect us. It hurts us more than we know.

First there is the disease aspect. There are more sexually transmitted diseases now than ever before no matter what the age is.

Secondly, when you have multiple partners and the other person has multiple partners then besides the fact that you have to worry about what all those partners might have passed on to either of you, you have the experiences. One person likes this kind of sex, the other likes it that way etc. And then if you get married there will be comparisons to the other experiences that you both had. People that don't have other experiences won't know if it's better this way or that because they won't be comparing.

I believe when we join together in sex we are giving a part of ourselves to that other person how much more special it is when you only give yourself to the one you marry. God made it this way for a reason, but as we do with every other thing in life, man decides he has a better way, or just wants to give in to his/her passion, rather than doing what God says because we know more than God, right? We don't but we always think we do.

 

[Run to Jesus]

Sex outside of marriage is a sin. If you have repented and asked God to forgive you then believe that he has. I think it is time you forgave yourself. Get good christian support (those who you can be accountable to) to help you and live a life of purity. Trust God he will give you the right person at the right time if you do want to get married in future.

 

[Reminisce]

According to some people, yes. But what matters is your heart. That's all I'm gonna say, before I get myself in trouble again.

 

[Run to Jesus]

According to some people, yes. But what matters is your heart. That's all I'm gonna say, before I get myself in trouble again.

I believe those people actually read and believe the Bible. What exactly do you believe Reminisce?

 

[Reminisce]

I believe that people are human and that God understands that. After all, He made us, with all our flaws.

 

[Marycita]

I believe that people are human and that God understands that. After all, He made us, with all our flaws.

He understands it...doesn't mean He accepts it...or likes it..

Indeed, the fact that He sent His Son to die for us so we may be forgiven and what's more be free from sin is proof that He loves us too much to just "understand"

 

[Run to Jesus]

He understands it...doesn't mean He accepts it...or likes it..

Indeed, the fact that He sent His Son to die for us so we may be forgiven and what's more be free from sin is proof that He loves us too much to just "understand"

Meaning that it is sin! One that His own Son's death paid the price for. One that He would not want anyone to miss out on heaven for.

 

[Lissa <3]

Yes, it is a sin.

 

[Criada]

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