I read with interest the post by Suebu7 about her son who was sleeping at his girlfriend's house and all the great advice that followed. Our situation is similar, but our son lives on the other side of the country. He's 28, an officer in the military, and this is his first really serious girlfriend. (It's hard for those in the military to sustain a relationship since they move around so often.) He brought her home to meet us over the weekend and it wasn't until I went to change the sheets in the guest rooms that I realized they were sleeping together because his bed was not slept in. I'm hurt and disappointed that (1) he's sleeping with her (2) he violated our home and values by sleeping with her here. That's part one of the problem.
Part two is the girlfriend herself. I have no idea how to to word this without sounding snooty, but here goes.... We liked her, but we just can't see our son settling down with her. She's the same age, but her maturity level is that of a college semi-party girl. I think they were both lonely... maybe feeling that "biological clock". They enjoy many of the same activities, but that's not enough to base a lasting relationship. Also, I get the idea that she is very clingy and it will not be easy to either slow down the relationship or end it, if that would be the case.
We plan on calling our son in a day or two. He's in grad school right now and this is finals week, so we don't want to disturb his studies - and we want to give ourselves time to pray about the situation and what we need to say to him.
So - any ideas?
Part two is the girlfriend herself. I have no idea how to to word this without sounding snooty, but here goes.... We liked her, but we just can't see our son settling down with her. She's the same age, but her maturity level is that of a college semi-party girl. I think they were both lonely... maybe feeling that "biological clock". They enjoy many of the same activities, but that's not enough to base a lasting relationship. Also, I get the idea that she is very clingy and it will not be easy to either slow down the relationship or end it, if that would be the case.
We plan on calling our son in a day or two. He's in grad school right now and this is finals week, so we don't want to disturb his studies - and we want to give ourselves time to pray about the situation and what we need to say to him.
So - any ideas?