The sauerkraut, the Husband, and the Thwarting
Posted 10th July 2012 at 01:26 PM by rivertree
This morning I told hubby I wanted to pick up a big jar of sauerkraut today. We’ve got those Polish sausages we need to use up. So then he came up with this little gem “Just don’t get one of those huge jars. I remember when we had a huge jar of sauerkraut that stayed in the refrigerator forever.” Slightly miffed, I tried to think of a comeback, but couldn’t. Sighing to myself, I thought of all the little warnings he constantly gives me. Just when I get excited about something, he gives one of those little warnings and sort of takes the fun out of it.
I thought about this for a while. Hubby is a really good, honest, and kind person, and I’ll bet he does this a lot less than most husbands do. Certainly he does his little downer-dances far less than most wives commonly do.
These types of interactions are the result of two very different people living together and constantly exchanging ideas. Um, that would be any two married people, because any two people, no matter how in sync they may be, are so very unique and different.
The second thing I mused upon was thwarting- being thwarted in some small or large way. I have actually been thinking about this idea a lot- as though it is possibly one of the themes in my life. The thing is, all human beings are thwarted from following their plans in a hundred ways every day. For example, the wife did not squeal in gratitude when the husband did something nice for her. Instead, she typically asked him to do something else for her while he was in the mood for doing things. The husband was thwarted. It did not work out as he had imagined it would. The wife brought home a pair of pants for her son who hates messing with clothes and needs his wardrobe upgraded badly. Sighs of annoyance were emitted from the son. Didn’t work out the way she had imagined- thwarted!
Her recipe did not turn out well. That check did not come. The headache returned. All thwartings. Thwartings are especially lethal to a perfectionist. And if you are a perfectionist with little drive and energy such as myself, and get thwarted, well, here comes the lethargy.
I wander how many times my little comments lead to a thwarting for my husband?
Anyway, I’ve thought of the perfect way to get back at him for the sauerkraut warning. Because that giant sauerkraut wasting away in the fridge incident occurred YEARS ago, and he never forgot it. So now I have good teasing material. I will tease him all over the place for making a big deal over minutia that happened years ago. I know I can get him to laugh- I always do.
I thought about this for a while. Hubby is a really good, honest, and kind person, and I’ll bet he does this a lot less than most husbands do. Certainly he does his little downer-dances far less than most wives commonly do.
These types of interactions are the result of two very different people living together and constantly exchanging ideas. Um, that would be any two married people, because any two people, no matter how in sync they may be, are so very unique and different.
The second thing I mused upon was thwarting- being thwarted in some small or large way. I have actually been thinking about this idea a lot- as though it is possibly one of the themes in my life. The thing is, all human beings are thwarted from following their plans in a hundred ways every day. For example, the wife did not squeal in gratitude when the husband did something nice for her. Instead, she typically asked him to do something else for her while he was in the mood for doing things. The husband was thwarted. It did not work out as he had imagined it would. The wife brought home a pair of pants for her son who hates messing with clothes and needs his wardrobe upgraded badly. Sighs of annoyance were emitted from the son. Didn’t work out the way she had imagined- thwarted!
Her recipe did not turn out well. That check did not come. The headache returned. All thwartings. Thwartings are especially lethal to a perfectionist. And if you are a perfectionist with little drive and energy such as myself, and get thwarted, well, here comes the lethargy.
I wander how many times my little comments lead to a thwarting for my husband?
Anyway, I’ve thought of the perfect way to get back at him for the sauerkraut warning. Because that giant sauerkraut wasting away in the fridge incident occurred YEARS ago, and he never forgot it. So now I have good teasing material. I will tease him all over the place for making a big deal over minutia that happened years ago. I know I can get him to laugh- I always do.
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