Positive New Language
Posted 26th January 2012 at 06:45 PM by mymondaymap
“The words you choose to say something are just as important as the decision to speak.”
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge it is shall eat the fruit of it [death or life].
When we speak uplifting words, our mood is more positive. The words we speak direct our life and remind us of how we are doing. If we say we can’t do something, most likely we won’t. Using positive words over and over opens up our minds to creative solutions. Think about death and life and how we can either create positive success with our words or kill success. Most of our success is up to us, because, when we start using negative language, we kill any opportunity for success.
Success starts with thoughts, but it can be made a reality with our words. As we think about an idea or solution, we positively talk about it and get even more ideas or we can squelch its success altogether. Of course not all ideas are worth keeping around, but, even when an idea is not great, the words we speak need to fuel our desire for success.
When I was in high school, I constantly spoke in the negative. It became my language, and it brought not only me down but others around me. My attitude always lined up with what I said. This, of course, means that I was constantly depressed. When I realized that my words were my problem, I started working on how I talked. This meant I needed to learn a new language. This language wasn’t English, Spanish, Italian, French, Chinese, or any other type of foreign language. It was a positive language that would bring me success and happiness.
Even now, I have to constantly work on what I say. As an adult and a parent, I am also aware of the people around me, especially my children. In the past twelve years, I have passed on my negative talk to my children. Now, I have to take the time to reprogram them and teach them my new positive language. This isn’t easy, because I still have moments where I slip and speak negatively. Well, as we all know, children usually do what they see their parents do. Fortunately, I’m getting better at speaking the positive language, so my children are getting better about what they say about themselves and their own situations.
There are ways that we can learn to speak a positive language. It will take time, but eventually it will get easier. This positive language can be learned by exchanging our negative talk with positive talk, watch what is influencing our positive language, find positive speaking friends, and use positive affirmations and meditation on a daily basis. These steps will help change our language, and, the more we use these steps, the more fluent we will become in our new positive language.
“But I tell you, on the day of judgment men will have to give account for every idle (inoperative, nonworking) word they speak.
For by your words you will be justified and acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned and sentenced.”
Matthew 12: 36, 37
The instant we say a negative word, we need to change it to a positive word. If we continue to say negative words, we will continue to think negative thoughts and our actions will be negative. This means we will have fewer successes in the long run. One way we can change our negative language is to think before we speak. If we do say a negative word, it is important to have a positive word to counter act the negative one.
There is one problem with switching negative talk with positive talk. Most people don’t know the positive talk vocabulary. This was something I had to learn. Although I have worked on speaking positive words for many years, I still mess up at times. For example, if there is a time I burn dinner, negative talk would be, “Well, that was stupid.” On the other hand, positive talk would be, “yeah, we get to go out to eat!”
The positive vocabulary doesn’t make us feel like total losers. Instead, we still feel good about ourselves and think creatively about the situation. In this situation, we can even laugh at our mistake and not punish ourselves. With this kind of talk and attitude, we can enjoy life and be an example of joy to everyone around us.
Another way to change our talk is to make a list of all the negative words we speak. While we go through our day, we need to take a small pad and pen with us and write down our negative words. Next, we will create two columns on a sheet of paper (more than one page may be required), and on the left side of the paper we will write all the negative words we used through the day. On the right hand side, we will think of new positive words we can use. The right column holds the key to our new positive language. We need to memorize every new word or phrase that replaces the old ones.
“The mind of the wise instructs his mouth, and adds learning and persuasiveness.”
There is a children’s song that talks about watching what we say, hear, and see. This is not just true for children. We need to all be careful of what is influencing us. Are we allowing outside influences to give us negative messages? If we hear a negative message, we need to immediately counteract it with a positive one. If we dwell on negative messages too long, they set up permanent residence in our mind and eventually seep out of our mouths.
This is why we have to guard our minds, eyes, and ears. We can do this by limiting our television time, listening to uplifting positive music, and reading books that encourage, motivate and use positive language. From time to time it’s okay to watch the news or read nonfictional and fictional books that don’t motivate, inspire, or use positive language. We just can’t make it a habit, because we can easily revert back to our old negative language when we see or hear too much negatively.
“Set a guard, O Lord, before my mouth; keep watch at the door of my lips.”
Psalm 141: 3
There is another way to learn a positive language and keep speaking positively, but it is not always easy and it takes a lot of hard work. This is finding positive, uplifting, and supportive friends. In today’s society, finding these kinds of friends is hard. Due to negativity’s strong pull, there are fewer positive people. When we do find positive friends, we need to cherish them. They are priceless and worth keeping.
Due to the fact that we can’t always have positive people around us, we need to try and help people in our lives to exchange negative talk with positive. If it is possible, we need to limit our time with the friends and family that bring us down. It is hard to separate yourself from friends and family that we have strong ties with, but it is important to the survival of our new positive language.
“For let him who wants to enjoy life and see good days [good- whether apparent or not] keep his tongue free from evil and his lips from guile (treachery, deceit).”
I Peter 3:10
When we read or hear about positive affirmations and meditation, we usually laugh and think it is silly. Yet, positive affirmations and meditation have helped many people find true happiness and success. We use affirmations and meditation to replace the old negative language. Many people give themselves negative affirmations, so positive affirmations feel uncomfortable.
When I use positive affirmations, my joy and hope rises. There are times when I am feeling down and useless. At these times, using positive affirmations makes me feel happy and gives me hope. For example, if I am feeling bad about myself, I need to say, “I am doing what God created me to do.” When I say this affirmation, I feel excited and ready to face any difficulty.
Positive affirmations should be in the present tense and need to express an action. They should be spoken out loud two to three times a day. This isn’t done to tell God what you need, want, or who you are, but it is for your own benefit. As I said before, you are replacing the old negative language with new positive language. We need to say it over and over again, because the old messages are engrained in our minds and we are use to speaking in the negative.
Meditation is a great way to get positive thoughts into our minds. We can contemplate on our affirmations, scriptures, or inspirational quotes. This is done by taking the affirmation, scripture, or quote and thinking about it over and over again until it is permanently sketched on our brains.
As we use these techniques, we train our minds to think positively and our mouth to speak positively. Once we start building this new vocabulary, we will find ourselves automatically using positive words, even in difficult situations. This week’s challenge is to learn this new positive language and banish all negative vocabulary.
“Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God’s favor) to those who hear it.”
“The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will his world and the world at large.”
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