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Overcoming False Accusations Or Being A Victim Of Vicious Character Assination Rumors

Posted 9th January 2010 at 08:32 PM by Gods Best
Hay guys! This is the first week of the year and I am determined to overcome every problem. I am taking the first step by writing this blog to possibly help anyone else dealing with a similar situation and personally complete the circle of forgiveness.

For the past three years, I have been falsely accused of trying to seduce a womanís husband in the church. This man happens to be a pastor, very well-known that if I dropped his name everyone would know or heard of him (i.e., he is a televangelist with over 30K members). I donít think that would be in my best interests.

ON NO OCCASION HAVE I EVER TRIED TO SEDUCE HIM OR COMMIT ADULTERY WITH THIS MAN. I have never tried to talk to him alone or flirt with him. I personally donít find him attractive at all and I donít particularly even like his personality. I personally went to the church because I realized that this man was vastly successful and I wanted God to bring about the same results in my life through my human personality. Some people in the church started this vicious rumor and took personal adoration for this man and said that I was coming to church to seduce him. Since this time, I have had the wife give me nasty looks and others snicker about me (i.e., older bitter women). In addition, he would take personal attacks on me through his messages and I would ignore him. Additionally, his wife and other ministerial staff made mean-spirited directive comments to me. So, I have kept my distance and even taken off time from going to church to escape their judgment. However, I clearly got bold and addressed this situation, then the rumors in the church turned to that I was coming to church to get a man and didnít have pure motives.

Last November, I changed jobs and I had a woman that I worked with that unknowingly attended the church and personally knew the pastorís family. This woman attempted to befriend me but I got bad vibes; so, I refused to interact with her. This woman would follow me to the bathroom and other co-workers found that she was a bit obsessed with me. This woman reported back to the pastor and his family that I hang out with married men on the job and I that I was not living right. She also told them personal details of my life by eavesdropping on my conversations with others. Moreover, she also told seemingly jokes as though it was the truth. However, God worked in my favor and she was fired for poor performance. More comments and snide remarks were made that I was after married men and I was going to hell. HOWEVER,

Recently, at the beginning of this year, I personally confronted this situation and they realized that I wasnít doing what I had been accused of. This pastor and his staff have still not apologized for the vicious rumors or character assassination remarks but thatís okay.

SOME OF THE THINGS THAT I LEARNED FROM THE SITUATION:

1. Refusal to run away from the situation: Although false accusations make it possible for your reputation to be tarnished for a short period of time, continuing to do the right thing will, in the long run, allow the strength of your character to shine. My refusal to run demonstrated that I actually was there for the right reasons. I stood two Scriptures and confessed them daily: (a) Isaiah 54:17 NIV: ďno weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and this is heir vindication from me," declares the LORD.
(b) Luke 10:19: I have given you authority to trample on snakes and scorpions and to overcome all the power of the enemy; nothing will harm you

2. Repay good for evil: It was hard but I was determined to follow the Word of God: "Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. . . if your enemy is hungry, feed him; If he is thirsty, give him a drink; For in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good." This helped me from stooping to this personís level and cursing out people that made snide remarks to my face.

3. Forgiveness/Letting It Go: This was the hardest part. I didnít forgive them at all and was angry. We can stew about the false accusations against us, or we can let them go. If you stew about it, you are in essence giving the accuser a certain amount of control over you. In contrast, if you let it go, you'll experience freedom and be able to enjoy the good things in your life, free (or at least almost free!) from the sting of false accusations. This allowed God to bring healing and restoration to me and resolve the issue. As long as I determined in my heart to remain rigidly angry, it permitted me to suffer from deep depression that I had never experienced.

4. Dumb people come to church: The devil will use Christians to hurt other Christians especially the ones that are genuinely pursuing God with their whole hearts. The devil is determined to find ways to prevent us from attending church. Psalm 92:13: "those who are planted in the house of the Lord shall flourish in the courts of our God."

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