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Heartbroken

Posted 19th February 2010 at 04:27 PM by JCFantasy23
Well my boyfriend of over a year and a half and the love of my life ended our relationship Wednesday night on the phone, without any previous warning. I've dated since I was fourteen and know of warning signs - distance, not answering calls, changes in affection, etc. None of this was here. We got into a small thing on Saturday but not a big fight, I was just a little aggravated at him and left so I wouldn't come off as grumpy. We had an amazing time Valentines - he claims now he was going to break up with me then but didn't want to hurt me.

Well, on Valentine's he called twice to see when I was coming over. He shaved his head that day. He took me to our couples restaurant where we haven't eaten in like eight months. He slow danced with me outside the place out of the blue. It was a great dinner and nothing strange happened. He then took me to the park and said one day we should have our names put together on a brick stone. We then watched some movies and had a great time.

On Monday I saw him again and watching another movie, great day, no fighting. Tuesday I saw him for like an hour and he asked if he would see me Thursday again as usual and got me some food at the gas station and we had a sweet breakfast together. Then Wednesday night was the phone call, very direct break-up...what on earth?? I am dumbfounded. He suddenly says he hasn't been happy for awhile and somethings I say and do bug him. He didn't give any examples and I am just floored. Just a little over three weeks ago he sent me an IM on looking at engagement rings together. I baked him a chocolate cake last Wednesday and brought it over to him for his birthday

Anyway prayers appreciated for grief, healing. I have prayed about this but feel nothing but loneliness. This has happened a few days before my 30th birthday, which is on Monday.

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I just happened to read your blog here and have something I'd like to give you to think about, and perhaps act on.

This of course is coming from a man's perspective... for whatever that's worth.

The feeling I get here is that he got scared. Not a very easy thing for a man to admit or even understand about himself. He may not even really know (consciously) why he did what he did. So, if you talk to him about this, please be careful and patient with him. Show him you are attentive to his needs by doing at least two things.... Use good eye contact and calm facial and hand gestures. Don't touch him until you know it's safe to do so. Too soon, and he may pull away both physically and emotionally. Not what you want to happen.

Body language is very important... both yours and his. Be watchful of his body language as well as what he says in response to what you ask... for example: "Can we talk about why our relationship has ended?" I think that would be a good starting question. As long as it comes from the heart and not overwhelm him with "wordiness" or "extreme emotion", it should bring out the truth from him eventually. This may take some time though so again... Be patient.

Of course, I know you already know to pray about this before you do anything. That's always a great place to start and certainly the wisest thing to do.

These are just my suggestions. Since I don't know either of you, I obviously can't say for sure what you should do. Please keep that in mind too. I will pray for you and hope that things will work out according to God's plan for your life. God bless you!
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